Generous Soul

A generous soul shall bloom infinitum
And create many things
Some exquisitely exciting.

It is the center of moral
As strong, healthy gets
It is giving without thinking

Of future paid debts.

- MPHS

Poem reprinted with permission from:
    Walking Flower:  a blossoming of consciousness  , Michelle Sherman, 2005, pg.14.

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Generosity arrives in many forms . There are three specific types that I find personally inspiring and encourage to develop. These types indicate a true generosity of spirit with self and others.

The first form of generosity is when I can experience joy and sincerely celebrate the success and accomplishments of those around them me. There is enough acknowledgement to go around. For example, a friend goes to a concert or on a trip that I would enjoy but am not presently able to experience. Instead of resentment or jealousy, I strive to be happy for their success and know my version is on the way.

The second type of generosity is what I refer to as giving another person the benefit of the doubt . This transpires when I assume the best until knowing otherwise. For example, a colleague has shown up for 10 years to most of our meetings and shared events on time and with a great attitude. This morning, they had agreed to drive me from work to the airport for a once in a lifetime professional opportunity and they do not arrive on time. Due to previous consistent and honorable behavior, I assume a flat tire, text them to make sure they are alright and get a paid ride to the airport. If they were able, they would have called us to let me know in advance. Their phone must have died or been lostor… I am giving them the benefit of the doubt until I hear otherwise. This is great when you or others have no current, information.

My motto here is “Assume The best in others until you hear or experience otherwise” and take care of the business in front of you.

The third type of generosity is subtle. It reflects those situations when someone you know or care for ascribes sinister motives to your words or deeds,because they themselves are too cynical to realize that there are many kind-hearted,generous and trustworthy people on the planet. They assume you are fake and insincere, for they mistake kindness for weakness.

“Big mistake!” , says the water that erodes the rock. In these situations, remember that others accuse you of motives based on how they see the world , not how you see the world. When accused of motives that are not yours, notice itASAP. Brush up on how to construct the type of boundaries that encourage those around you to respect your value system, and you!

Being a generous soul is a good thing to some while appearing completely foolish to others.

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